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November 30, 2008



What a wonderful and loving posting. Thank you. My father died last Christmas at the age of 90 and so your post struck a very personal chord with me. Thank you for sharing your insights and your thoughts. Your dad was--and still is--blessed to have you as his legacy.



I don't know you and you don't know me, but now I will be thinking of you as I make turkey broth this week. I'm glad. Thank you for sharing this story.


So sorry to hear of his passing. I know we haven't heard as much from you in the past few months, and I'm glad that he is finally at peace.

Jenny Schwartzberg

I miss Uncle Red so much already! This post is beautiful and I will forward it to Mom. Lots of hugs and kisses coming your way from Chicago.



Julie, I am so sorry to hear this. I actually thought about you a bit this past weekend as I was making stock from my turkey frame - you inspired me to do so, always - and this soup sounds lovely for my resulting stock. I send my deepest condolences... I lost my own father 8 years ago on Halloween. It doesn't get easier; it just becomes less hard, if that's any consolation.


Sorry for your loss. My grandmother passed away a couple days after T-Day last year. She too was fighting cancer and it was a hard last couple of days.


I'm so sorry to hear this. I understand exactly what you mean about an expected death still being unexpected.


Julie, like others I am sorry to hear of your fathers passing. May this and other familiar memories, help give you peace in this difficult time. What a great recipe, I'll have to make it.


A beautiful tribute. I laughed reading your account of the caregiver "breaking it to you gently." Red, and Ellie, would have made an even better story of it. What is the Yiddish version, do you think? How we would all laugh, when you and Red and Ellie came to visit. It was non stop. The smell of Ellies perfume, Red's towering presence--he always looked like a Cossack, to me--those are such wonderful memories. Come to thanksgiving next year--I think I'm going to bag the turkey altogether and make rack of lamb and we'll start a new tradition.



I followed a TWITTER link to your blog. I am so sorry to hear about your father. Losing a parent is the most difficult part of life, I think. I felt like an orphan after my father died. Yes, he was trying to leave and it was hard on him because he knew you needed him. I remember my son (18 at the time) telling me I needed to let Grandpa go --- that Grandpa was afraid to leave me alone. I stood by his bed and told him it was OK to leave, that we would be OK --- he passed an hour or so later.

I too always cook the carcass up for soup. The first year I lived in Denver we had Thanksgiving at my Aunt's. The next day a very red-faced Uncle was at my back door --- with my Dad laughingly pushing him in the door --- he was carrying the turkey carcass and said, "Your Dad says if we toss this you'll never talk to us again."

Amazing how a turkey can fall into the memories of a lifetime. I will try this soup. And I will think of you and your Red when I do it. I love soup and since this is my first winter back in snow (after 18 years in SoCal) I'm eating a LOT of soup.

Bless you in your pain. I can't say it will get better --- only different. And to know this kind of familial love is truly a treasure.


I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.


Oh, Julie. Just surfacing after the holiday to read this. My heart goes out to you and your family (what your sweetie said brought tears, so sad but beautiful). I'm so sorry to hear the news--sending much warmth your way.


I am so sorry for your loss. Your post brought tears to my eyes. Thinking of you


I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, Julie. Your dad sounds like a treausre. I'm touched by your beautiful post. I hope you're doing well.

All my love to you and G.

Lea xxx


I am thinking of you too and wishing you solace through this time of change!


Hi Julie - I haven't been doing a very good job of keeping up with my blog-reading lately, so I just came across this post about your Dad. I'm so sorry to hear of his passing - I hope you and G are doing OK. Cathy

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Its sad to hear your loss. The turkey rice soup its looking amazing. Its very simple and delicious.

Thanks for posting


Julie - I don't know you but intermittently drop by your blog, and wanted to extend my condolences on your loss.

Nine years ago I lost my dad on Thanksgiving day as well, a couple hours after dinner. It was a brutal and painful loss, and while time has eased the ache it will never erase it.

For years my sister and her husband fled from family on the holiday, eating Chinese takeout or hamburgers instead of enduring a get-together that would only remind them of their grief.

In the last few years we've finally been able to get together again on Thanksgiving, and while there's a lump in our throat there is also joy in our memory of him.

I hope, for you, that time and your loved ones help you get to the place where you can hold it together through a toast to absent loved ones. Best wishes through the holidays.

Enjoy your turkey soup. :)


I am so sorry for your loss. A very lovely tribute.


Oh dear, Julie. I am so behind on my blog reading, it's embarrassing. I am so sorry to hear about your dad dying and I'm sending you lots of overdue hugs and good wishes. It sounds like he had a good life and a good death, which can sometimes be a comfort. xoxoxo.

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Sad news we send our hugs. In the last few years we've finally been able to get together again on Thanksgiving, and while there's a lump in our throat there is also joy in our memory of him.

I hope, for you, that time and your loved ones help you get to the place where you can hold it together through a toast to absent loved ones. Best wishes for 2009


Oh Julie, I'm late, but I want to send you a big hug. I'm so, so sorry to hear about your dad. You were lucky to have him for so long, and he you.


Hi Julie thanks for dropping by my blog and leaving your lovely comment. I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I remember my own father, when he had cancer and living with a lot of pain, phoning me and saying "I've had enough, I'm going". I said "Can you wait until I get there"? I jumped on a plane as soon as I could but he died while in the air. I've often thought how I'll handle it when my time comes. I do know this is the last time I'll do chemo. I guess when my quality of life is not good I'll make the same decision. Hopefully the latest chemo drugs will do the trick and I won't have to think about it for some years.

I'm sorry I'm so late in replying to your comment but I wanted the time to write something more than "thank you and I'm sorry".

I send you good wishes and sunny hugs from Australia.


I went through the same loss in June 2004, and yet, the pain feels like yesterday. Your photo of Turkey soup looks comforting and nourishing, just what you should have right now for your soul. Loss is devastating at any age, especially the loss of a parent. Just know he would not want you to live your life in sadness; that would not be honoring him. Think of him smiling, and without pain. That should provide abit of comfort for you.

Egy Azziera

"How could I not love him? He gave me you," is this very very touching line, Julie I must say that you love your father sooo much even today.

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